I’ve been meaning to express some thoughts on stress, and over-commitment, but I just haven’t had time. The irony is not lost… It has been one of those stretches where I bit off more than I could chew. I tell myself it's only a month or two – I can survive anything for a few weeks.
But a few days ago I received a message that I knew I really couldn’t ignore.
I was driving, running late, steering with my knee while I ate my breakfast en route. My mind was in a million places because I was worried about a decision I made, an appointment I forgot, and something I wished I hadn’t said. I was taking note that, because of the snow, I couldn't really see the edge of the highway, and that it would really suck to drift a tire onto the shoulder… Then I hear these lyrics on the radio, “I’m going off the rails on a crazy train….”
Of course this jumped out at me because when Ozzy speaks, people listen. Well, not entirely… But even though the song is not exactly about an over-scheduled calendar, that line just seemed appropriate.
I have a bit of a routine. Most mornings, I try to do the things that I feel are healthy for self-care – reading, meditating, exercise – the usual hippie stuff. And so my first thought was, “This is not working. There is too much going on, and I'm just as scattered as ever….”
For starters, I am very good at carrying too much stuff – I am The Queen of Never Making Two Trips. Which has saved me some trips, but has also resulted dropping gallons of milk on a frozen garage floor (I guess we’ll smell that in spring), which resulted in me having to explain to the kids exactly why they shouldn’t get into the habit of cussing – because later on in life, those words just kinda sneak up on you.
And I guess I’ve taught my kids how to carry too much. I’ve caught myself telling them to ‘Put something down before you drop it…’ Whether it is carrying too many dishes to the table, or too many cartons of eggs to the fridge, or too many hockey bags past the shelf with glass stuff and THIS IS WHY WE CAN’T HAVE NICE THINGS…
So anyway, I was at the tail end of a stretch of delusional over-commitment, and my hands were full of a lot of stuff – schedule stuff, emotional stuff, self-pummeling stuff. Couple that with that cyclical friend who, when she finally shows up, causes you to look back at the last 5 days and go, “Oooohhh… THAT’S what that was….”
Normally this is a great time to beat myself up for being such an idiot and over-scheduling and over-stressing myself. BUT – I have a new, super-hero grade, secret weapon called… NOT beating myself up.
I had big plans to get all the things done. But I quickly realized that it would need to be a day for me to put stuff down before I drop it.
So I put down some parenting anxieties. I thought of something I had read, “If you’re a parent, accept that you’re going to screw up. Have a sense of humour and ask for help.” Truly.
And I put down some nonessentials – aka housework.
And I fought the urge to try to do a full-scale over-haul of our life and house and schedule to make it into the perfectly manageable machine.
I put down my all or nothing mindset, which is my default. Oh? We had a crazy month? Well let’s move to a cabin in the woods and tap our own maple syrup and grow our own pigs and card our own wool. As much as I think I could handle that on most days, I suspect it might backfire.
And so, with a clearer head, and a couple of ironed out priorities, I move forward. I will continue to show up, do the things that are healthy for my spirit – like breathing, and exercise and pauses. Sometimes the benefits are hard to see, but the fact that I haven’t run screaming into the woods is a sure sign of progress.
And try not to carry tooooooooo many of the other things, like over-scheduling and the kicking of oneself when down.
At least until the next time I believe the lie of my invincibility. And I will know it’s really serious when it is pointed out to me through 80’s heavy metal lyrics.
Is your workplace or your family situation like many others? People are at home sick, or toughing it out and struggling through some pretty intense days of feeling poorly. It certainly seems like colds and flu's are running rampant around here. Is that the case? For that answer we reached out to our CFAM morning show health and specialist, Pharmacist Ryan Douglas at Winkler Pharmacy. And yes, according to Ryan, there are some pretty active strains impacting Manitobans this winter
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It was early in 2015 -- a cold January weekend -- MCI Gretna was the host site for a Saturday of competition attracting special Olympians from all over the province for a day of snow shoeing and competition....that was all in preparation for this past weekend -- the Manitoba Winter Games in Special Olympics in Winnipeg.
Volunteer Gord Sawatzky, helped organize that meet in January, and joined us this morning to share the excitement.
And here's a summary of their results, in an e-mail from Gord:
1.We came home with 27 medals! 11 gold, 10 silver and 6 bronze
2.Every Panther athlete won a medal!
a.In the 400 m race – we won 1 gold and 1 silver
b.In the 200 m race – we won 3 gold, 1 silver, and 2 bronze
c.In the 100 m race – we won 3 gold, 3 silver and 1 bronze
d.In the 50 m race – we won 3 gold, 4 silver
e.In the 25 m race – we won 1 gold, 1 silver and 3 bronze
a.Val Delorme - 1st in 400, 200, 100, 50
b.Taylor Friesen- 1st in 200, 2nd in 100, 50
c.Candy Neustaeter - 1st in 100
d.Brenda Klassen - 2nd in 50
e.Andrew Dyck - 1st in 200, 2nd in 100, 50
f.Justin Milner - 2nd in 200, 100, 25
g.Eli Martin - 1st in 100, 50, 25
h.Terry Adair - 2nd in 50, 3rd in 200, 100, 25
i.Jonah Ginter - 1st in 50, 3rd in 25
j.Austin Johnson - 3rd in 25
k.Curtis Loewen - 2nd in 400, 3rd in 200
We look forward to the possibility of some our Panther athletes being named to Team Manitoba which will compete in Cornerbrook, Newfoundland in March of 2016!
We've heard a lot recently about that tragic fire involving the Froese Family near Kane. The man at the middle of much of that media attention has been RM of Morris Reeve Ralph Groening. Ralph joined the CFAM morning show on Friday to explain how the community has been impacted, and how that situation has shone a ray of positiveness on many of those involved:
Friday's CFAM morning sports with Clayton Dreger included the information that the Morris Mavericks hosted Morden Thunder Thursday, and that the hometown Mavericks lost that game. You may have also heard how fans were invited to bring a donation for the Froese family. Brenda Lehman drew our attention to the fundraising opportunity earlier, and then called Al Friesen following the game, to offer an update, and explained how she became involved:
It was created in 1995, the Governor General’s Caring Canadian Award recognizes those who volunteer their time to help others and to build a smarter and more caring Nation. The Caring Canadian award also recognizes those volunteers, whose compassion and engagement are so much a part of our Canadian character.
Two Manitobans received the Caring Canadian award last night -- Ian McLean who was active in Scouts Canada for more than 21 years, and Robin Cox of Carman -- Robin was known to many for his contribution to sports. The award ceremony took place yesterday afternoon at Government House, and it was prior to that Al Friesen spoke with Robin in his home in Carman
Photo supplied by the Cox Family
Robin is pictured with the other Caring Canadian recipient Ian McLean, along with The Honourable Lt Gov Philip S Lee and her Honour Anita K Lee
There are many of you in the community who are asking how to support the family who recently lost everything in a fire in Kane February 25th. We have been in contact with the good people from Donate Love. If you would like to find out more on how to best support this family contact Denise Thiessen at (204)823-2865.
Wednesday is our day to invite an area mayor to stop in, and for today, Al Friesen stopped in for a visit with Winkler Martin Harder who was in the midst of preparing for this week's State of the City address at Thursday's Winkler Chamber of Commerce meeting
In the Mayor's Chair, is heard every Wednesday at 7:45 on the CFAM Morning Show
Kim Link and Randy Neufeld will represent Manitoba at the National Senior Mens and Womens Curling Championship in Edmonton in March. Kim came out on top in Killarney while Randy Neufeld defeated Ron Westcott yesterday in Altona. The crowd of well wishers behind the glass in Altona included skip Randy Neufeld's daughter Sabrina, who has also experienced considerable on ice success, coming in 2nd in Canada twice as a junior curler with Calleen Neufeld, and again, most recently with Calleen, now Friesen, in the 2015 Scotties tournament of Hearts in Winkler. Sabrina sat down with Al to share about that experience and her advice for Dad in Edmonton.
Randy is pictured here with Dean Moxham, Peter Nichols, and Dale Michie
Tim Morison with Bronson Ammeter(red), and Matthew Thiessen (white)
His name is Tim Morison. He's a young goaltender instructor in the central region running a series of instructional mornings with goalies and also a summer goalie school. Tim was on the ice yesterday, and took a break long enough to talk about shop with CFAM Morning show host, Al Friesen:
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